Healthy Relationships.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Let’s talk about relationships, in general. It is completely normal for someone to hold a relationship with someone else. That someone else can be a boyfriend or girl friend, a friend or best friend, a mother or father, daughter or son, sister or brother and even an acquaintance. No matter the reason you know a person, it is considered a relationship when someone shares interaction with another person, whether that is in a good or bad way. Therefore, I would like to add ways to establish and maintain healthy relationships with others to sustain good mental and emotional health.

I’m sure many people already know that it is important to have great communication when it comes to a relationship. According to loveisrespect.org, there are several ways to improve communication between partners (boy friend or girl friend). Speaking up, respecting your partner, learning to compromise, being supportive and respecting each other’s privacy are all great ways to communicate feelings. For example, if you don’t like something your partner did or said, it is best to speak your mind (especially if it is going to continue to bother you). From my own personal experience, I have been told and have learned personally myself, that it helps not to criticize about the problem. However, it is good to talk in a calm and collected tone, because sometimes your partner won’t agree with you, especially if you are raging about a problem.

Furthermore, boundaries are also good to add in a relationship. Hanging out with your friends without your partner, participating in activities that you enjoy, not sharing everything (such as an email password), and knowing that the both of you have differences should be put into consideration.

Other good points that this website has is about things NOT to do in a relationship. Some of them are common sense. However, some people still make these common mistakes.

  • Understand that it is not fair to expect someone to change the way they act or make decisions the way your would
  • Some people forget to focus on their own needs. Make sure you are not throwing out your own needs and ALWAYS putting your partner’s first.
  • Make sure you include family, friends and other close people to your in the loop. Obviously, you don’t have to tell them everything, but it is nice to have a support system.
  • Lastly, remember to do what is best for you and that is going to best benefit your mental and emotional health within the relationship. Some people compromise in a relationship because they don’t think they deserve better or can find better.

For more information on this topic, check this website out: http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships?gclid=CjwKEAjw8O2hBRDKur2lseLW6C8SJAC-r1J3HPVI4EoZ6IxKFPXH6F9mHHZ2gb4AWJEsY2p3Hf8AQxoCGvPw_wcB

When looking at other relationships, they have similar ways to deal with healthy relationships. Youngwomenshealth.org says, communication, sharing, respect and trust all contribute to a healthy relationship. Actually this website has great scenarios that would be helpful to look at: http://youngwomenshealth.org/2011/06/02/healthy-relationships/

By taking all these tips and information into consideration when in a relationship will be helpful. Also, they are sure to maintain and establish mental and emotional health.

And if you are still not sure, take the QUIZ!

Here is a quiz to see if you are in a healthy relationship: http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships/healthy-relationships-quiz

References

“Center for Young Women’s Health.” Center for Young Womens Health. N.p., n.d. Web. 8 Oct. 2014. <http://youngwomenshealth.org/2011/06/02/healthy-relationships/&gt;.

“Healthy Relationships Quiz.” Www.loveisrespect.org. N.p., n.d. Web. 7 Oct. 2014. <http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships/healthy-relationships-quiz&gt;.

“Healthy Relationships.” Www.loveisrespect.org. N.p., n.d. Web. 7 Oct. 2014. <http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships?gclid=CjwKEAjw8O2hBRDKur2lseLW6C8SJAC-r1J3HPVI4EoZ6IxKFPXH6F9mHHZ2gb4AWJEsY2p3Hf8AQxoCGvPw_wcB&gt;.

Engage in Activities to Better Health

When it comes to my personal experience, I enjoy engaging in activities that help me stay happy. Any type of physical activity helps me because I am less stressed and more positive afterward. For example, I enjoy sports! One of my favorite individual sports is rock climbing. If I want to rock climb, I can go by myself and not get frustrated by relying on someone else to be there with me to perform the activity. Another activity I enjoy is running. Running always claims me down and it does not matter the distance. A new sport that I recently tried was mountain biking. Being my first time, I was nervous, a bit scared and excited. Let me tell you, that was a fun experience. It is something I could see my doing in the future to get things off my mind.

However, not all activities have to be physical to calm one down. I also enjoy writing and watching movies. Writing is one way to express my feelings. By writing my feelings out, however I want, makes me feel relaxed. Movies are just fun and they are more fun when I watch them with friends and/or family. Furthermore, if I am feeling stressed, a comedy is the best choice in that case! If all else fails with these activities, I can just talk to someone. Talking to someone usually makes my problems less of a worry.

Basically, just find an activity that best suits you. Obviously, mine are more active, but anything that claims me down and makes me happy will do. Because, I believe everyone should live life to the fullest, and being happy will make that ride a whole lot smoother! 🙂

Dealing with Loss

Losing someone young versus when one is older can have different affects. However, that might be because everyone deals with loss differently, whether they are young or old. Some losses can be more peaceful than others or more violent than others. For example, I experienced loss for the first time in sixth grade. I remember my grandfather and I being close. When I discovered he had cancer, I was in shocked and scared. Even though he had cancer, I still tried to make the last moments with him as special as they could be. It was that actual day that he passed that I was not the same. Out of my sisters and I, I took it the worst. I cried and blamed myself for not visiting him enough. To this day, I know I cannot go back and share more moments with him. However, I deal with his loss in the best way I can. By knowing he was surrounded by family and he is no longer is in pain anymore, I can move on and just remember the memories we had together.

I wouldn’t say that one gets over death or loss, but nearly copes with it.

I was always told and learned that there are five stages of grief: denial (shock/disbelief), anger (mad about the situation), bargaining (change the situation with something else), depression (sadness decides decisions), and acceptance (making peace with the situation). I went through all of them when I was going through my loss.

According to Kylee Wierks from Fox 59 news, “In JEFFERSONVILLE, Ind. (September 16, 2014) – A southern Indiana man is charged with brutally murdering his ex-girlfriend and eating parts of her body.” Imagine losing a family member this way. To know that they were murder, cut to pieces and then eaten. It would be tragic and horrifying.

One has to remember steps that best help them cope with loss. Support from others is definitely a good system to have. I know that it was helpful for me to have someone else to talk to about my grandfather that felt the same way as me. Even if they don’t feel the same way as you, it is nice to have someone that cares about your feelings. Another thing one can do is take care of themselves. Even though the situation one can go through seems like the worst situation possible. It is best to worry about oneself too and take care of one’s health. For example, if one is in school, they should still focus on school even with a horrible situation.

When depression sets in or one’s grief does not go away, it might be best to seek professional help.

For more information, go to these sites below!

http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/hecat/pdf/hecat_module_meh.pdf

http://fox59.com/2014/09/16/indiana-man-charged-with-brutally-murdering-ex-girlfriend-consuming-parts-of-her-body/?flv=1

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

How to Deal with Stress

Hi! My name is Sydni Cleckley and I am a general studies major. However, I am highly interested when it comes to health. One aspect of health I wanted to focus on is having students comprehend concepts related to health promotion and disease prevention. Starting with stress! Stress can ruin a person’s day, or when more severe even parts of their life. It is important to find healthy ways to deal with stress. So, I will take a further look at MEH 1.8.25 – Explain positive and negative ways of dealing with stress. (HBO 4)

Here is four ways of dealing with stress:

1. Talking to yourself (I know what you are about to say, but hear me out first)

Bring yourself up in a positive way (by telling yourself “I can succeed” or “I am doing great”) and not being so negative (“I can’t make it” or “I am stupid”). When you say negative things about yourself, it only increases stress. Therefore, talking to yourself in a positive way helps control stress.

2. Taking a break

There are many aspects in one’s life that can effect stress (work, school, home, etc.). Have you ever heard the saying, think before you speak? Well, next time you are stress and/or upset with a situation (count to 10 before you speak your mind, take some deep breaths, or walk away and come back). Here’s another good one, drive in the slow lane or avoid busy roads to help you stay calm while driving. I am guilty of this! I am a patient person until it comes to traffic. So, this is one I will work on.

Remember: don’t be negative! Forget the road rage, avoid the conflict with a friend/family/significant other when you know it is not that important to fight about and take a break!
3. Finding a hobby

When you constantly do things you truly enjoy, stress is likely to occur and are likely to decrease. Some of my hobbies is rock climbing, running, enjoying nature or something as simple as listening to music. All of those are positive ways for me to deal with stress. However, activities that you don’t enjoy or not choosing to do things you enjoy on a daily basis will not benefit you (which brings out more negative stress).

4. Daily Relaxation
One of the best ways to relax is yoga, or some form of this. And you might not believe it, but yoga is more challenging then you might think. Every time I do yoga, I instantly feel better and feel as though I get a work out from it. The best part about yoga is that there is videos online where you can follow along for free! Of course, there are classes you can take. But if you are tight on money, don’t stress yourself out more! Do it at home.

 

Obviously, I have given more positive ways to deal with stress than negative. However, I hope you find this helpful and I will be writing more about concepts related to health promotion and disease prevention on my blog!

Thanks for reading. If you want more information on this topic, go to this sites where I found my information.

http://www.heart.org/HEARTORG/GettingHealthy/StressManagement/FourWaystoDealWithStress/Four-Ways-to-Deal-with-Stress_UCM_307996_Article.jsp

http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/hecat/pdf/hecat_module_meh.pdf